Kink checklist couple4/5/2024 There are pet collars that are usually used for those in a pet/trainer or owner dynamic or for those that normally identify in different roles but have a pet collar for when they specifically do pet play. This brings us to what kind of collars you may wear or see others wear. Keep in mind also that a single s-type may wear a collar just to indicate that they are an s-type. Basically anything that represents the relationship dynamic. It may be a bracelet, ring, piercing, tattoo, etc. However, keep in mind a “collar” isn’t necessarily something that must be worn around the neck. Steel, leather and rope are probably the most popular. What can a collar be made out of? The answer is, just about anything. Owned slave or latest Hot Topic fashion? Hard to tell these days. 101, personal/reflection, power exchange & D/s, relationship If you are the one filling the “teacher role” (even if you have the answers) it’s possible to mess with the D/s dynamic that you may be trying to nurture and develop. However, if you are the s-type and the new recruit is a D-type – I highly recommend putting them in touch with other D-types to learn from and talk to. If you are a D-type and the recruit is an s-type – it’s pretty easy to see where teaching and training is an easy fit. This is the part where I will add a more specific D/s related point. In my opinion, if they have the interest and possess other qualities that you enjoy, it’s worth a shot! However, this is also an opportunity to expose BDSM to someone who may really take to it quite well. You may not want to deal with “training” a newbie. This is the point where you have to decide to recruit or not recruit. Keep in mind – just because someone isn’t in the “scene” doesn’t mean they aren’t kinky! They just may need an introduction to this wide world of BDSM. This can go one of two ways (basically) – they end up running for the hills or perhaps they are interested to learn more. Open up about your lifestyle, interests, relationship profile, etc. Another is to get to know them a little better and vice versa. So what then? Should you immediately run for the hills? That is one option. It’s possible that you may still end up meeting someone in the vanilla world whether or not you were looking. You decide you will not seek out vanilla partners. Here’s the fun scenario though – let’s say you are closer to the latter and really can’t imagine going vanilla again. Of course there is a whole lot of “in between” as well and the same advice goes to all – weigh how important kink and D/s is for you and that may give you a hint at answering this question. If power exchange relationships are the only kind you want or if play feels more like a need than a want – then it may not be wise to dip your toes into the vanilla dating pool. For others, at the other end of the spectrum, kink and D/s may be how they live their everyday life. In this case it may work well to open yourself up to any possibility – kinky or vanilla. There is nothing wrong with this, however, you may find that if you meet a great person who has no interest in kink – it may be no big deal. The first question you should ask yourself is how important is kink in your life? For some, kink is something that’s fun every so often to spice things up. If you’re single (or poly) and dating – do you even bother opening yourself up to the vanilla population? Or stick only to your own kind in the kink world? From private party conversations to munches to support groups. I hear this “debate” discussed all over the place.
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